Squirting for dummies
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I’m going to be honest here.
Regardless of my colorful sex life with many unique encounters over the years, there’s one experience I haven’t checked off the list…yet.
I’ve never been able to squirt.
If you’ve never heard the term before, squirting is an involuntary expulsion of liquid from a vulva-owning urethra during intercourse. It is arguably different from female ejaculation, and can often occur both with and without pairing with an orgasm. The experience, while it sounds a bit odd, is very pleasurable– or so I’ve heard.
If you’ve never squirted either, the good news is, we’re not alone. A study in 2013 by Florian Wimpissinger, Christopher Springer and Walter Stackl, published in BJU International, outlines that the average age for first time squirters is around 25, and one woman in the study squirted for the first time at 68!
A group of polygamist friends I had in college always suggested that while every woman has the ability to squirt, it is very difficult to achieve, which is why a lot of us, myself included, have never squirted. I actually did my own research on this–according to certified sex coach, Gigi Engle, in her interview with Healthline on squirting, “… it appears that anybody with a vulva has the ‘mechanics’ required to squirt.” However, studies estimate anywhere from 10-50 percent of women actually experience the phenomenon.
Want to know more (I know you do) ? Sit back, relax and read on.
The Who, What and Why
When a person with a vulva is turned on, and their clitoris, G spot, or both, are being stimulated, some individuals release either a gush or trickle of clear liquid, from their urethra. Basically, since the skene’s gland is often stimulated by consequence of this motion, squirting is sometimes the result!
Gabrielle Kassel, in her article, “Everything You Need to Know About Squirting,” published in Healthline, defines it perfectly: “The fluid — which isn’t pure pee, but rather is a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine — is released by the Skene’s gland, which sits at the lower end of the urethra.”
I think it’s pretty cool that vulva owners can do that!
Want to try it? Here are some of our favorite tips!
Everything I’ve read suggests the focus should be on the G Spot and Clitoris. So each of the tips below are something I’ll be trying, too!
1. Relax, breathe
It seems like, for most of us, this is the hardest part. Yes, you will feel the need to pee and letting go towards release is the hardest part (according to me). I’m working on completely relaxing each time I give it a shot.
2. Fingering
If you’re aiming to involve your partner in this sexy shower, fingering could give you the boost you need. If your partner focuses on using the “come here” motion while their fingers are penetrated, they may be able to locate your G Spot.
Combined with clitoral stimulation, I’m convinced after a few attempts, some of us could probably get closer to the gush.
3. Invest in a sex toy
It might be harder to stimulate both erogenous zones when flying solo. Might as well get some help 😉
4. Enjoy the process
The truth is, it will still be difficult for a lot of us to squirt. Some of us may never get to it and that’s ok! Just remember to have fun.
This is mainly just an excuse to explore more of what you like, want and…need!
Take this as an opportunity to get to know yourself better and focus only on the pleasure.
To squirt or not to squirt? Time to find out!