Why you should own a vibrator
My first real introduction to the world of vibrators was fairly recent. One of my best friends decided to buy one for herself and her natural instinct was to get one for me, too.
If you know me, you know this makes sense.
Throughout my life, I had the privilege of being in many sex poitive spaces, which basically means I’m the friend that has a whole lot of sex stories. And I tell them proudly.
Surprisingly though, my experience with sex toys was limited, with just an occasional use with a partner that introduced one into our play.
Even as someone that masturbates regularly and has had plenty of and plenty types of sex, I was still new to the sex toy realm.
The lockdown increased my need for “me time,” I was actually already considering enhancing my pleasure game. Clearly my dear friend got the message telepathically– I welcomed her gift, the pretty pink vibrator,into my life.
The rest feels like history.
An article I recently read accurately points out, “…the fact of the matter is that whether you think your hands or whatever oblong object you’ve been messing about with is sufficient, using something that vibrates unlocks a completely different part of your sex brain.”
Truer words have never been spoken.
The invention of this marvelous gadget can be credited to George Taylor, a physician in 1896, who designed it to relieve symptoms of “hysteria” in women (a term coined for those with depression and anxiety). Clitoral massage was the treatment. “To the point of hysterical paroxysms of relief,'” says sexologist Carol Queen, PhD.
And I don’t know about you guys, but it’s definitely one of my favorite inventions. Of all time.
So why do I think you should have one, too? Here are 5 of my most compelling reasons:
- It is reliable. I’ve had sex without an orgasm. I’ve even occasionally fallen asleep on my fingers before cumming. But with my vibrator? Not only do I always reach the peak, round two and three comes shortly after.
- It’s improved my relationship with my body. I felt pretty in tune with myself since discovering masturbation in my teens. But when regular use of a vibrator came in, I discovered that my pleasure is actually multi dimensional, and dare I say, limitless.
- Men can use them too. Yep you read that right. Check out this Q&A that I found that points out that men can “…use vibrators on other parts of their body, such as along the shaft or head of their penis, or around the base of their penis and close to or on their scrotum.”
- It can enhance your sexual experience with your partner. Introducing a vibrator into your sexy time could not only spice things up, but also be pleasurable for both of you!
- It’s healthy. More orgasms means a laundry list of health benefits,that include, sleeping better, keeping your vagina healthy and feeling less stressed. Infact, there is research that connects orgasms with better heart health, too!
The crazy thing is, sex and pleasure is still stigmatized in most societies. Which I personally think is ridiculous.
More of us should own our pleasure, it’s part of what makes life beautiful. And sex toys are a perfectly healthy addition to your pleasure routine.
Whether it’s a special occasion or just another Tuesday…buy more vibrators.