How looking at your vulva is good for you
If you’ve made it past the title, I encourage you to stay.
Hear me out.
We’re all guilty of glancing at ourselves in the mirror at every opportunity. Even though we physically see ourselves less than the people around us, you can probably dictate what you look like, pretty well.
But do you know what your vulva looks like?
To be fair, the common terminology is misleading. Are you asking yourself, “What is a vulva?”
When we say the word vagina, we often mean the entire downstairs region, but by definition, the vagina only refers to the canal that connects the entire vulva to the cervix.
For the sake of this discussion, we’re talking about the outer layers of your flower. Your pussy, temple or punani. That’s your vulva.
So again, do you know what your vulva looks like?
A survey conducted by Vice in the U.K. revealed that out of 1000 participants (with vulvas) in the study, 44% were unable to identify the basic parts of a female reproductive system displayed in a medical diagram.
If almost half of us don’t know our own parts very well, I think it’s safe to assume that we’re also not looking at them.
But why not? The reasons are endless.
Maybe it’s our body image issues. Some of us have endured abuse. And alot of us have been taught that our vulvas and everything that comes with them, the pleasure and the pain, is somehow ugly, dirty, vulgar and wrong.
Well, as a fellow person with a vulva, I say, we need to change that. Our gardens deserve a lot more attention.
Here’s 5 of our (tried and tested) reasons why you need to look at your vulva, today. And no, not just the usual casual glances and peeks, but actually taking a couple of minutes to open her up and give her a good long loving stare.
- She’s beautiful. Seriously. Did you know that vulvas come in all shapes, sizes and colors? There’s no ideal or normal vulva aesthetic. Which means we all have one of our own with a unique signature. How cool is that!
- You’ll learn your pleasure points. A healthy sex life often starts with learning your own sweet spots first. Ask yourself questions like, “Do I like stimulation directly on my clitoris or around it?” If you don’t know the answer yet, it’s time to find out.
- You can take mental screenshots. I don’t know about y’all but sex and orgasms are both physical and mental for me. I often imagine my own hoo-ha while masturbating and even while doing the deed–the orgasm that follows is mindblowing.
- You’ll get to know her better. This one’s a biggie. Knowing your lady parts really well could really help your health– you’ll know when something’s wrong and know when to act on it. She’ll tell you.
- It’ll make you more confident. She’s with you 24/7, 365 days a year. Why do we reject her loyalty? A huge part of self love is getting to know yourself honestly, truly and deeply. That should include your vulva!
Whatever your reason for not paying more attention to your gorgeous V, take this as a sign to make a change. Whenever you’re ready, grab a hand mirror or get acrobatic in front of one. Look at your vulva, love her. She’s capable of so many things, but most importantly, she’ll definitely love you back.