The simple basics of queer allyship
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Even as a queer person, in some public spaces, I still appear straight. It’s a fact I have to accept.
While I technically belong to the LGBTQIA+ community, I realise that I have certain “straight passing” privileges that my queer peers may not always have.
I’ve often felt guilty about it, especially considering what my queer family has repeatedly faced, but I’ve realised that just feeling guilty does nothing to actually help.
So as a community member but also a privileged person, improving queer allyship, is a big part of my passions and interests. I am no expert, but I can definitely help with the basics.
And if you are ready to become a better human being, this one’s for you.
Treat this as a basic guide–maybe you can start here.
Being an LGBTQIA+ ally can mean a lot of different things, and how you specifically choose to do it can vary, depending on your own resources.
However, I think being a better ally means you should be aware of some basic ways that are actually helpful. Things that can bring about real change, even in the smallest of ways.
Here are some suggestions–
Stop putting yourself in the spotlight, it’s time to give up the stage.
As a straight ally, you have certain privileges that the queer community is fighting for. Presenting yourself as the “hero” by being a supporter, really just defeats the purpose of your allyship. Instead, hand over your crown to give a voice to those who need it. Make room for queer people.
Offer financial support to queer- run organizations
One of the best ways you can support the LGBTQIA+ community is to support NGOs, businesses and other organizations that are actively working towards or simply belonging to the queer community. Even a little can go a long way.
Know the important pieces of queer history
Just like you’ve spent studying everything else, it’s useful to spend some time learning more about the people you want to support. Whether it’s pop culture, historical events, current events or existing laws in our country, take some time to educate yourself.
Ask questions
As a non queer person, self educating should be your first priority. However, create conversations and ask questions to those who need to be heard. Just like you would with anyone else. But do it respectfully and listen! Be willing to learn and change problematic behaviors, it’s the least you can do.
Stand up for everyone
Remember, as a true ally, you can’t pick and choose. Supporting gay rights = supporting trans rights = supporting all queer and marginalised community rights. Period.
Honestly, the most simple aspect to keep in mind here is to simply treat everyone as a free and equal human being.
Some people need more support than others, just to simply be themselves and love who they want to love. This is where you can come in.
If you honestly start seeing it that way, the allyship will automatically follow!